|Posted on December 6, 2014 at 11:00 AM|
Self Pleasure (Mindful) masturbation can change your life…
For many masturbation is a repetitive unconscious exercise to relieve some tension, in this process many of us are disconnected from our bodies and therefore limiting ourselves from much more pleasure. Mindful self pleasure (masturbation) coaching can support an individual in reconnecting with their whole body and access deeper states of arousal. Think about it to be a great athlete or artist takes learning, takes practice, takes coaching, so why would learning to be a great lover be any different. As a certified somatic sexological bodyworker and somatic sex educator I use witnessing and coaching to assist clients to identify areas that may be locked from pleasure, areas in their bodies that might trigger shameful thoughts and feelings and guide them through to discover new sensations to explore and celebrate.
The actual process of Mindful Self Pleasure (masturbation) can be done in person or in the privacy of your own home via Skype, the first session is simply allowing yourself to be witnessed in honour and savouring your pleasure, no talking is involved and this is not about performance it simply is the space to for you to give yourself permission to be seen, to allow yourself to savour and enjoy the sensations and pleasure you feel in your body and allow what is to be.
As with anything in life it does take practice to help rewire our habitual patterning so I recommend for clients to have the intention to commit to a five session program of mindful masturbation coaching.
Witnessing and coaching are two powerful modalities of Sexological Bodywork. Unlike bodywork, witnessing and coaching do not require me to touch the client. This may make these modalities more suitable for some students or teaching environments. While we can use the skills of witnessing and coaching to approach a number of erotic learning situations, they are particularly useful when addressing the area of masturbation.
Witnessing is simple and profound in its effects. When we witness another, the person being witnessed can have the sensation of seeing themselves in a new way. The student may become aware of areas of shame, or discover new sensations to celebrate. Simply being witnessed by a compassionate presence may provide all a student needs from a Sexological Bodyworker. There is often nothing that needs to be fixed or worked on. A student may simply need to be affirmed and given permission to make changes or go deeper into their own self-awareness.
Masturbation coaching often begins with witnessing. One or more sessions of witnessing can provide important information about specific skills to develop or areas for attention. Just as a track coach provides workout strategies, offers positive feedback and sets goals for their athletes, masturbation coaching can become a process of co-creating pedagogies with our students in order to meet their goals or intentions. This usually involves creating homework assignments or practices that help the student learn specific skills or un-learn limiting scripts or patterns.
Masturbation is often a highly habitual and disconnected experience for people. Masturbation coaching is a very effective way to assist someone to break free of limiting habits and to go deep into their erotic experience.